This should be interesting, since it’s a huge step in your relationship. You decide to meet each other live. So, what do you do? You met her on a dating site. So, it’s kind of a surprise date for both of you.

Here are some tips that might help you.

Don’t take her some crowded place

Taking her out on your first date to a baseball or a football game is way out of line! Even if she likes that sport, still, you don’t do that! And the main reason for not doing that is because you can’t even hear each other speaking. Not to mention that it would be like going out on a first date with you, and another one thousand people!

Surprise her!

If you’re the romantic type and she is too, then a nice idea for a first date can be a nice romantic restaurant. Dinner at candle lights, nice music, discrete waiters, good food. It’s a perfect evening! And if you complete it with a nice interesting conversation, then the road is opened!

Or, find interesting ideas yourself. Do something that will impress her in the good sense of the word. Put your imagination at work!

Be curious about her

Every woman want to be in the center of your attention, and since we’re speaking about first dates, this is a golden rule. Besides, if you want this relationship to continue, then you must make her feel interesting and wanted. It doesn’t have to sound like an interrogation. Except maybe if you’re Dating Police!

And, if when you first meet her on a real date, after talking to her on line, try not to be a wimp! That means don’t bring your best friend to scout the place and evaluate her just because you don’t have the courage and you’re so stressed about it. Go there, say hello to her. She won’t eat you! Well, not literally, anyway! 

When dating women, it’s like having to perform brain surgery for some man! They just don’t get some simple rules.

First of all, being too serious in a conversation with her, might scare her. So, try some humor! Make subtle jokes. Compliment her in a funny way. But, please, don’t make fun of her looks!

Even if she has some extra pounds, don’t tell her that. She knows about her weight and she probably is trying a new diet as we speak. So, if you really like her and you don’t care very much about the extra pounds, don’t mention that. Don’t talk about food or diets. Don’t suggest her to do some sports. She knows that herself. So, don’t make her feel bad! It’s something you wouldn’t probably want to experience yourself!

If her hair looks weird, don’t make fun about it! It’s a bad hair day and believes me, when a girl has a bad hair day, you don’t want to make her even angrier than she already is! Instead, try to calm her, relax her, and tell jokes about anything else.

Don’t make bad comments about her clothes and style. Even if you don’t agree with her style, don’t say it out loud. Better tell her she has an original style. Sometimes, an innocent lie is better than a blunt truth!

But some men just don’t get some simple things; and these things get on a woman’s nerves.

Socks and shoes off 

The atmosphere is so hot between you two, that you can hardly wait to touch and feel her. But please, if you don’t want her to have a bad impression about you, take off your socks and shoes! Maybe in those cheap porn movies you usually watch, men have sex with their socks on. Well, those are cheap movies; the reality is different. A man might be seduced by a woman’s shoes and he likes her to wear those sexy shoes when having sex, but that is not the same in your case. We don’t think your shoes are sexy.

Mobile phone

Shut down your mobile phone. We hate to be interrupted by an annoying ringing when the situation is most heated! It’s disrespectful and it shows that you’re not paying attention to the moment.

Do not talk about your ex girlfriend, the stripper

Don’t talk about your ex’s sexual performances in bed! It will only turn your present girlfriend off. And believe me, when a man is heated, seeing his girl disappointed, is like a cold shower! I don’t have to tell you that, you figured it out. Or if you want to talk, it’s better to make compliments on the way she looks, the way she kisses you softly, or the way she moves. And if you can’t do that, then don’t talk!

Foreplay

And, the most important thing, don’t forget about foreplay! If you don’t know what that means, then ask her. Ask your date what she likes, where she likes to be kissed and touched. She will guide you, and it will make it a night to remember.

When it comes to on line dating, some men don’t seem to come up with a nice opening line! They just start with the usual “Hi, how are you”, or “Nice Photo”. We can just feel how insecure he is about himself and the situation! Come on, you can do better than that!

Try being more creative! Come up with something original! Be more sure and confident of yourself! I could tell you some opening lines I like, but I am mean and I don’t want to do that. Probably next time I’m on a dating site, you’ll welcome me with one of those lines, and I probably would feel like talking to myself in a mirror!

We provoke you to surprise us!

So, I provoke you to come up with the best you can get! Here’s a tip: try watching some romantic movies, or old movies. They can be very resourceful from that point of view! Some endearment phrases will do just fine! Women like being fondled and spoiled! Make her feel special! It’s not hard! Try using creative approaches and opening lines! It has to come from your attitude. So be relaxed and confident! Now, don’t get me wrong: don’t act neither too sweet, nor too aggressive. Find a balance. 

Surprise us! We like surprises! It’s all part of the game! So, gentlemen, make your move!

Men just seem to have a problem with “who’s smarter?”! When dating a woman, you’re just obsessed about being the smart one in the couple! I think that you can’t handle the fact that sometimes women can be smarter than you! You instantly feel inferior, and start having complexes. So, then you start talking about your knowledge, about all the complicated books that you pretend you’ve read.

But it’s funny, when we ask you to tell us about the impression on the book, you just can’t answer. And you start changing the conversation topic. Stop doing that! You’re just making a fool of yourself! This is not about who’s who! It’s about having a decent true conversation with your on line date. It’s not a competition!

You’re obsessed by the idea of being the macho, the smartest!
It’s ok if you’re trying to improve yourself, expand your knowledge. But don’t lie about the books you read. At least, you can tell her that you’ve heard of a great book, and you’re suggesting that you should both read it, and then discuss it. Share each other’s opinions on something that just became a mutual subject. It’s more stimulating, not to mention fun! We very much appreciate a good  sense of humor!

Unemployed.
If you’re the type of man who just doesn’t seem to be able of keeping a job more than a month, don’t even try of contacting me! We’re not here to support you, while you prefer sitting on the couch, drinking bear, belching and watching sports instead of looking for a job and trying to actually keep one long enough!

Wife beaters
You’re probably the type of man that doesn’t have other arguments than beating his wife. Your brain is probably too undeveloped to make you rational. And on top of that, you’re probably jobless too. Join a fighting club, but don’t hit defenseless women!

Alcoholics
If you’re the type of guy that sees a bottle of blonde beer when looking to a woman, than you should probably find a therapist and go to an A.A. meeting! Try dealing with your problems instead of drowning them in alcohol! Stand up and take action! If you need my help, ask for it. I’ll help you. But stop feeling sorry of yourself and being down to the bottom of every bottle of alcohol you lay your eyes on!

Wimps
If you’re the kind of man who can’t stand up for himself, and gives up every time he’s challenged, then you can forget about dating me! Go hide yourself some place safe, otherwise who knows what might scare you again! Boo!

Mummy’s little boy
If you’re on your thirties and still living with your folks, and you never dare disobeying your mum, then you have a problem! Get a life! Open your eyes and start living! You’re too old to live with your parents!

Porn obsessed weirdoes
If you have an entire collection of porn movies, you wear women’s lingerie underneath your clothes, even though you’re not gay or travesty, then you should definitely check your head! Don’t even think of approaching me!

Self-centered men
  If you’re the type of guy who doesn’t care about anyone and anything except himself, don’t think of ever dating me! You’re probably better with yourself!
Or even worse, if you’re a narcissist obsessed with his hair to look good with his spotless image, keep out! Stay away from me and my hair styling mousse! Go and talk with your mirror!

Arrogant men
If you are too proud of yourself, bragging all the time and you don’t seem to realize that there are probably better men out there, if you can’t handle a decent contradictory conversation without hurting other’s feelings and always trying to impose your point of view, even if wrong, then you definitely not my type! Your assertiveness doesn’t impress me a bit!

Liars
If you cannot be honest in a relationship, you can’t be trusted and you don’t tell the truth, you obviously cannot make a relationship to work. Lying to the others ultimately means lying yourself.

Workaholics
You probably spend 18 hours a day at work, forgot to feed your pet and plants, sometimes forget to feed yourself, your best friend is your pager and you talk to your computer. When you’re caught in traffic and two minutes late for work, it’s the end of the world for you! And on top of that, if you don’t even notice that your secretary looks like a supermodel, then you’re definitely a workaholic. Look up in the dictionary for the word “vacation”!    

We want to see your picture!

You have a profile on a dating site, and you haven’t posted your photo yet? Then you may say good bye to your chances of meeting a women, for that matter! Even if you think you made the best profile on a dating site, if you don’t have a picture, it’s like being inexistent. It’s like you’re walking on the street without having a face.

If you don’t see my point here, try thinking from our perspective. You want to see women’s pictures on dating sites, right? It’s logical! You’re obsessed by blondes with long legs, huge breasts. So, we want to see your picture too!

We don’t want to see pictures of you naked!

Now that you probably understood why we want to see your picture, you think that you should show it all, impress us with your super size. No! That doesn’t impress us very much. If you want to see it all from the very beginning, it’s not the same with us. So, keep your clothes on please! Otherwise, you loose all the mystery and you’ll be like just another picture from a bad calendar. We want to see first what kind of person you are.

Try to impress us with your personality; it’s more fun like this. And if we consider you’re worthwhile, then we decide when you can take your clothes off. Some of you just don’t seem to have the taste for feeling and enjoying a relationship. Maybe you’re an exhibitionist. Then you should probably try a career as a striper! Who knows, you’ll even earn some money out of taking your clothes off!

Women are not that obsessed with money.

Usually men see us as being some kind of predators hungry for money. That’s not true! Of course the material part matters, but not as much as you probably think. We want a guy who is capable of paying for dinner when going out, and bringing us flowers, at least from time to time! It’s romantic! We appreciate chivalry.

You better be able to support yourself, to have a decent job, to afford paying the rent, and taking us out once in a while. After all, your male ego hates the idea of a man being supported by his girlfriend! It’s pathetic and deplorable!

Act like responsible grownups!

Some men are still acting foolishly and irresponsibly, worse than teenagers. You pretend living in a patriarchal type of society, where men are supposed to be the main pillar in a home. So, act alike, don’t just brag! Don’t expect us to support you, buy you the beer, while you prefer sitting on the couch, watching football and drinking beer, and on top of that, you probably lost your job too! This is the perfect example of a pathetic looser! Be responsible.

The thing is that as much as we like ranting sometimes about taking the lead and being capable of earning more money that you do, it’s nice to have beside us responsible men who are capable of supporting a family. It’s about being part of a team, of a game.

Let’s talk about sex! Let’s talk about what usually men want from their girlfriends and what do the girlfriends want. This is interesting! Maybe, dear men, you will “catch” some ideas!

Women hate to be treated like sexual objects!

Now, I know you like watching porn, and I know you probably fantasize about some weird experiences happening to you too, but come on, get real! Movies are just movies! You’re so naïve sometimes! Do you really think that your girlfriend or your date will do all the acrobatic stuff you’re fantasizing about!?

Improve your language in bedroom conversations!

And here’s another thing! Even if you are planning to try on her all that acrobatics, for God’s sake don’t say it directly, just like throwing a rock in a pool of mud! I know, you’ve probably imagined the kinky scene million times in your head, and you’re very excited on the idea of doing it with your girlfriend, but try and think a little about her too, for a change! If you’ll start sharply describing all the kinky details, she’ll probably think you’re nuts and she’ll be intimidated! Try and be a little more diplomatic! Leave out the kinkiest details. Think a little: do you really think that you can be that acrobatic, to do that? I doubt that. And, for those of you who want to try it on their first date, think again! We’ll get kinky when we want it!

We don’t like porn-obsessed-man!

You’re so preoccupied with fantasies that you forget to live what’s real! Try to be a little more realistic. Try to be a little more human. And if you really want acrobatics, you should probably go to some gym classes first!
Don’t forget: play by the rule, or the game is over!

1. Women love animals. Men pretend to love them too. But usually, when a woman is not paying attention, a man kicks her cat or dog: annoying furry creature!

2. In the bathroom, a woman always lives clean. But after a man, you must clean a whole day!

3. Women don’t get lost that easily when they are in a new place. They ask for directions! But a man doesn’t do that: he thinks it’s a weak thing from a man to do that! So, he’ll spend the next 2 hours trying to find the way out.

4. When it comes to sex, women like a long foreplay. Men don’t know what foreplay is, so they try something for like … 5 seconds. And they think they rocked. Yeah, right!

5. Women are more mature than men. This doesn’t need to be explained. It’s a fact.

6. Men talk about sex. Women usually use the term “making love”.

7. Here’s something to cheer you up, and feel good about yourselves: usually, men are better drivers than women. But other than this, you’re just cute clumsy creatures, most of the time.

So, like I said: you need us, and we need you! It’s a game that ends with even score. Everybody wins! We all have good parts and bad parts.